i know you ship remadora but i was wondering what your thoughts were on the hospital scene from HBP?

sirussly:

(( OOC: Ah, yes. That scene. I know a lot of people find the hospital scene at the end of The Half-Blood Prince an uncomfortable interaction between Remus and Tonks, and I don’t disagree with you. However, I personally think that we are given such a lack of context surrounding that scene that it would be unfair to interpret it as a stand-alone interaction, especially given the fact it’s viewed completely through Harry’s narrative.

I’ve actually been doing some research recently on the timeline surrounding these events, and especially the period between the final two books perhaps you’ll find out why soon. Dumbledore’s death and the Battle of the Seven Potters took place roughly a month apart, at the end of June and the end of July 1997. During this time several things happened: the Order moved their base to The Burrow, there was another mass break-out of death eaters from Azkaban, and guess what else? Remus and Tonks got married.

Now a lot of people assume Remus and Tonks’ relationship didn’t officially start until after the hospital scene, when they were seen holding hands at Dumbledore’s funeral. But I think it’s massively unlikely that Remus and Tonks decided to become an official couple and then immediately get married… all within the space of a month?

A much more likely theory is that they had been in an established relationship for way longer than that, probably since the beginning of the Half-Blood Prince. We know Remus is an angsty little shit who refuses to believe that he’s good enough for anyone, let alone Tonks. She even says, “I’ve told you a million times…” so Remus and Tonks have been very aware of each others feelings for a while.

We also know Remus panicked and left Tonks after he found out she was pregnant – therefore it’s not entirely unlikely he may have done the same thing once before, because of an equally daunting situation. I think it’s likely that Remus realised he wanted to spend the rest of his life with Tonks, completely freaked himself out, and left.

And listen – if your boyfriend went from madly in love with you to completely ignoring you… you’d bloody well confront him about it in a crowded hospital ward too. If Remus had been refusing to talk to Tonks for a couple of weeks, and that hospital scene was the first time he had been forced in a room with her, then no wonder she reacted how she did. And let’s be honest, at this point Remus definitely needed a few people telling him what an idiot he was being.

So, Remus chills out, let’s himself love the woman he wants without punishing himself, and marries Tonks like he wanted to all along. And they all lived happily ever after the end.

Of course, these are just my personal head canons – and if you disagree, cool. Ship who you wanna, they’re just fictional characters after all. But I think this theory works with what little canon information we have, and maybe explains some of the reasoning a little bit more. ))